We rarely hear senior sexual health discussed openly in everyday conversation or in the media. Why is it that this important topic seems to become more taboo and less talked about as we age? Experts agree that remaining mute on the subject matter leads to the general misconception that seniors lose interest in sex.
Sex in old age -- or even middle age -- is typically a punch line: it's gross, it's non-existent, it's weird, it's comical, it's "like trying to shoot pool with a rope," as George Burns once said. And though Dr. Ruth continues to fight the good fight, with inspiring self-help books like Sex After 50she has to compete with gag books like the title Sex After 60which is blank inside.
Changes in sexual desire and behavior throughout your life cycle are normal. This is especially true as you enter your later years. But in fact, many people remain sexually active throughout their lives.
Aging is generally associated with improvements in our quality of life : We become more proficient in our work, learn how to manage our finances better, and our bonds with loved ones deepen. With time and practice, most of the core domains of our lives improve as we develop skills and strategies to manage our lives with more mastery. An exception to this pattern is the quality of our sex lives, which has consistently been reported to deteriorate with age.
Horny old broads, dirty old men. These commonly used terms speak volumes about how society views older people who are interested in sex. Experts say such derogatory labels reflect a deep level of discomfort in our youth-oriented culture with the idea that seniors are sexually active.
As you age, sex isn't the same as it was in your 20s — but it can still be satisfying. Contrary to common myths, sex isn't just for the young. Many seniors continue to enjoy their sexuality into their 80s and beyond.
How your sex life evolves as you age is largely up to you. Your body will change as you get older, and your sexual health will change, too. These changes may require you to adapt.
Many people want and need to be close to others as they grow older. For some, this includes the desire to continue an active, satisfying sex life. With aging, that may mean adapting sexual activity to accommodate physical, health, and other changes.